Saturday, July 5, 2014

Random Thoughts....AGAIN

It seems like I can't create post unless it random thoughts. So here goes!!

  1. Ummm the 1st sentence in this post is a random thought. LOL!
  2. This year has been filled with death. I do mean in the natural kind.  I knew at least one person who died each week for the first 6 weeks. Now it seems like it is picking up again. In the last month 3 people have died from some form of cancer or another. 
  3. We really need to take better care of ourselves and our love ones. Present company included. I am starting a boot camp on Monday to kick start my healthy living lifestyle change. I refuse to have to take medicine when I can prevent it from happening. I am glad I have some accountability partners. 
  4. I really really really need to create my vision board. I have been so busy helping others with theirs that I still don't have mine done.
  5. 3 weeks. That is all I have off this summer if I skip a week of training scheduled this month before school starts back at the end of the month. I really need a true vacation! 
  6. My barber is not really getting what I want as a hair cut. I am going to give him 1 more time to get it right. Its still cute but 
  7. There are so many trips I want to take next year with different groups. I need another full time job just to afford all of them. There is cruise with my bible study group, a Vegas trip with my line sisters, an all inclusive trip with my TC peeps, Essence with my bible study group and a trip with the Man-Child. 
  8.  My small circle of friends push me pass my comfort zone. I am grateful for them. The things we come up with and the multiple conversations going on at the same time are insane sometimes. Its funny because we are able to follow them all.
  9. Authentic friendships are the best.
  10. I am still chewing on the message my pastor gave on Wednesday. I was convicted. His question was "are you touching and agreeing with someone for something that is good or bad?" He gave the example of you dapping up your friend and saying there are no good women out here. And you are responding with "ain't that the truth" or something else similar to it. Why do we do that?
  11. Man-Child is growing and changing. Our relationship is too. We both have some more adapting to do where that is concern. 
  12. I have to find other streams of income. I have a few things in mind. I just need to get focus and make it happen. Details coming soon.
  13. I had a conversation with some ladies about reinforcing positive images and messages to our youngsters. There are many children who do not hear "You are smart." or "You are beautiful" often or even at all. Today we agreed to start "You are beautiful" campaign. You can join too. Tell those around you how beautiful, smart, handsome, resourceful, thoughtful...insert any other positive adjective word. 

Friday, May 2, 2014

Five Friday Thoughts

I stole this idea from LadyLee. I have been wanting to blog but really didn't know what to post and did not want to take a lot of time to do it. So here we go with 5 random thoughts on this Friday.

1. I am really getting the entrepreneur bug. I have a couple of businesses in my mind. I started working on the major one, Each One Reach One College Tour. I have partnered with another teacher. We will have our first tour in October. I am so excited!!!!! We have to exposed our children to more than just their high school and neighborhood. There is a whole world out there and they need to start seeing it!!!

2. I am so looking forward to Summer Break!! I know many people think teachers have it made with our schedules. Let me enlighten you. Even though students have 8-10 weeks off during the summer, many teachers don't. Looking at my calendar, I have 3 weeks off this summer. 3 WEEKS. Many teachers work summer school/summer camps, have workshops to attend or even classes to sharpen their skills.

3. My students are in the midst of their end of the year testing. This is the first year I have been nervous about their/my results. It seems like the desire to learn and grow are not there. It breaks my heart because I know how hard it is going to be for them if they don't change. I wish they could see it.

4. A little over a month ago, I changed my Facebook cover to big changes ahead.

Well, I noticed I have not worked on those changes. Its a new month. I need to get to working on them. I will start today! If I wait until tomorrow, Monday, next week, next month, next year, etc, it will never get done. There are so many areas I plan to change. I just need to prioritize and make it happen one by one. Some areas will impact the others. 

5. Man-Child will be home from college in less than two weeks. Every time he came home for a weekend or break, I was able to see so much growth in him. I can't wait to see/hear his take on his first year in college. Freedom, schedules, campus life, college courses, earning and managing money. There is so much to talk about! Here is a picture from a weekend visit in October. 

That was fun! It didn't take me too long to do it. Maybe I will blog again soon! LOL!!!

Sunday, April 20, 2014

Another Blog Challenge

I saw this challenge on another blogger's page. Since I have neglected this blog to the utmost. I figured I will jump start it with a challenge. This challenge seems to make me dig deep into to

This list of thought-provoking questions is the reason I wanted to this one.
Day 1 — Something you hate about yourself.
Day 2 — Something you love about yourself.
Day 3 — Something you need to forgive yourself for.
Day 4 — Something you need to forgive someone else for.
Day 5 — Something you hope to do in your life.
Day 6 — Something you hope you never have to do.
Day 7 — Someone who has made your life worth living for..
Day 8 — Someone who has made your life hell, or treated you like shit.
Day 9 — Someone you didn’t want to let go, but just drifted.
Day 10 — Someone you need to let go, or wish you didn’t know.
Day 11 — Something people seem to always compliment you on.
Day 12 — Something you never get compliments on.
Day 13 — A band or artist that has gotten you through some tough ass days. (write a letter.)
Day 14 — A hero that has let you down. (letter)
Day 15 — Something or someone you couldn’t live without, because you’ve tried living without it.
Day 16 — Someone or something you definitely could live without.
Day 17 — A book you’ve read that changed your views on something.
Day 18 — Your views on gay marriage.
Day 19 — What do you think of religion? Or what do you think of politics?
Day 20 — Your views on drugs and alcohol.
Day 21 — (scenario) Your best friend is in a car accident and you two got into a fight an hour before. What do you do?
Day 22 — Something you wish you hadn’t done in your life.
Day 23 — Something you wish you had done in your life.
Day 24 — Make a playlist to someone, and explain why you chose all the songs. (Just post the titles and artists and letter)
Day 25 — The reason you believe you’re still alive today.
Day 26 — Have you ever thought about giving up on life? If so, when and why?
Day 27 — What’s the best thing going for you right now?
Day 28 — What if you were pregnant or got someone pregnant, what would you do?
Day 29 — Something you hope to change about yourself. And why.
Day 30 — A letter to yourself, tell yourself EVERYTHING you love about yourself

Saturday, March 29, 2014


When you wake up every day, you have two choices. You can either be positive or negative; an optimist or a pessimist. I choose to be an optimist. It's all a matter of perspective. ~Harvey Mackay 

I had a conversation with some sisters over the Christmas holiday. It was interesting to hear them talk about their experiences growing up. The siblings share the same father but different mothers. They grew up in separate households, while they dad bounced back and forth between the two homes.

The interesting part of the story is the two sisters had two different perspectives. The older sister saw how their dad basically had to homes. She would go with her dad to the other woman's home. Through the years, she had resentment for the other woman. It was because she saw first hand the heartbreak of her mother. Her mother never talked about it to her, but she knew something was not right with her dad being gone a few days and nights a week. As the oldest child, she felt the weight of this family dynamic on her.

The other sister had a totally different perspective. She knew her family makeup was not normal, but she did not have any ill feelings about it. Her dad (and both women) instilled in all the children they were siblings. It wasn't this is my half-sibling type of thing. They were sisters and brothers period. Regardless of who was the mother. She loved having another set of siblings. Growing up, they would visit each other. As teenagers, they went to the same high school and developed a stronger bond. I recall the younger sister saying, "Looking back, how we grew up was really different. Yes, there were fathers who stepped out. However, the parents usually split up and the children rarely interacted with each other. Our parents made sure we had a relationship with each other. I realized now that is not normal." I agree its not the norm, but it appears it worked for the children to know each other and to love each other as if they shared both parents.

As adults, their bond is still strong. Most of them live in the same area of town. Their children goes to school together and play together. Their children even visits their "other" grandmother. It is a beautiful thing to see the focus was on the kids having a good relationship even when the parents were going through their mess. Now two generations have formed strong ties and family memories. 

One of my Delta nieces, Princess Warrior, was diagnosed with osteosarcoma (bone cancer). She received the news the day before she celebrated her Sweet 16 birthday. Her parents were willing to cancel the birthday weekend celebration, but she wanted to keep the festivities. They had activities all weekend long! She has gone through chemo, blood transfusions, and surgery to remove the tumor from her knee. All the while she continues to have the most upbeat spirit. She knows she is not in this fight by herself. Her family is surrounding her with love, support, prayer, and whatever else she needs. And her village (extended family, church family, school family, parents' friends who are like family) are constantly praying, supporting, visiting, fundraising, and lifting both Princess Warrior and her family. This page has been created to raise money and give updates as Princess Warrior kicks bone cancer's behind! 

Now Princess Warrior could have easily had a major pity party instead of her Sweet 16 celebration. She could have complained and start acting sick since she truly is sick. However, she keeps a positive perspective. She said, "This cancer is not about me. God is using me for somebody else. Who? I don't know." And she has jacked up everyone's faith level! Being around her doesn't leave you a choice otherwise! 

Many people people remember the snow storm Atlanta had in January. The decision makers did not heed to the weather reports given a few days earlier and was caught with many people stranded on the freeways, schools, jobs, and many other places other than their nice warm homes. Understandably, many were quite upset. Much of the anger was misplaced by blaming Mayor Reed for ALL of the mess. He is responsible for Atlanta. There are plenty other mayors in Metro Atlanta and the state government who needed some of the blame. I remember reading quite a few posts of people complaining about the snow, being stuck in the house with their children, being stuck on the road, people selling food on the freeway,etc. However, there were quite a few people who saw the positive of the shutdown. It gave people time to stop and rest, have real talks with loved ones, and do some things around the home we are too busy to do. Here is one of the best posts I saw that gave a unique perspective. "Many of you have heard about the Snowjam 2014. I've officially have been stuck for 24hrs, yet I'm enjoying myself. It's almost like a winter freaknic! The wonderful people you meet, even free food. And on a side note, if I see Governor Deal or Mayor Reed I'm doing an ol school WWF flying kick off the top of my car on their ass!!"  

Now that is how you make the best of a horrible situation!

All of these are wonderful examples of looking at a situation from different perspectives. You feel so much better when you can look at any situation with a positive spin. What situation in your life can use a different (positive) perspective?

Thursday, December 12, 2013


 I know we have seen the numbers game on Facebook. I remember playing it either earlier this year or last year. The game where you inbox a person a number, then they display that number with their impression of you. I decided to send my number to one of my friends who was playing. His response was "the 1st thing I noticed about you when we met in college was your inner strength. You have no neutral gear. If you are for someone or something, you are all in for them or it. You are honest to a fault and I love you for it."
When I first read his response, I chuckled.  Various people have said similar things to me in the past. In fact, I have said some of the same things about myself.
I am going to steal a technique from The Original Oldgirl LadyLee, I am going to take each sentence (thought) and expand on it. 
The 1st thing I noticed about you when we met in college was your inner strength.
I think my inner strength has to do with my upbringing. The older members in my family instilled in me to depend on myself to get things done. If and only if, I could not do it on my own, then ask for help. Because of that train of thought, I rarely ask for help. My family also taught me to proud of who I am and to lead by example. There is nothing I can't do if I put my mind to it. Those are great values I try to instill in my own son. 
You have no neutral gear. If you are for someone or something, you are all in for them or it. 
GUILTY!!!! When I decide to do something or supporting someone, I am all in. I am going to do whatever it is to make it happen. I am going to research info, brainstorm with you, run errands, etc. Whatever you need and I can do it, I got you!
What impressions do others have about you that are true?

Sunday, November 3, 2013

Gone Too Long

I can't believe I have not posted since July. I have to do better. I guess I don't think I have this long profound thing to say. Or that if I posted, it will be really short. I guess I need to change it. So much have gone on.

Friday, July 26, 2013

What happen to the writing challenge?

Well.............. I the 10 day challenge have turned into an all summer long challenge. I have been posting their question of the day faithfully every day. However, I have not posted here as I stated. Y'all know I have ADD. I don't stick to stuff long. I will do better.

The ladies in the group have been sharing some great stuff. We have a secret group, so what we post is safe among us. I have purged some people out of the group, because they were just lurking. I have to purge again later this month.

Well, I have to go. If I write too much on this post, then I will not get around to the other post.

See ya!

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