Day 21 - Another Moment

I really not feeling these "moment" posts. Never really know what to write about. However, it did not take me weeks to figure out this one. One moment that stands out is the moment I realized an ex was literally draining me.   We had broken up about 6 months before but we did the normal checking on each other from time to time. We even talked about getting back together. For whatever reason, that did not happen.

A few weeks later, he called me about some mail from my son's school. The mail was clearly addressed to me. However, he took the liberty to open my mail then call me to fuss about its contents. He did not ASK about the letter. He went on a rampage about getting my son to school on time and being responsible. I HIT THE ROOF!!!! You may be right about some things but me not being responsible and doing the best I can for my son IS NOT ONE OF THEM.

I cussed him out while driving my son to school. First of all, there was no need for him to open up my mail!! He had options! He could have called me to pick up my mail. He could have brought it to his job and tell me to pick it up there. (We literally worked across the street in different office buildings). He could have brought it to my job. What he should have not done was open up my mail!

His second mistake was trying to check me. In the words of Shree', "Who gone check me Boo?" The letter was saying my son had excessive tardies.  I think he had about 8 or 9. He did not call with concern to see if there was a problem preventing him to get to school on time. He called to tell me how I was not being a good parent because I was getting him to school late. Now this letter came at the end of the school year. So this little boy was late approximately once a month! Now, I was concern but I KNOW I got him to school on time most of the time. In fact, the few times I got him there late, the bell was literally ringing while I was waiting in the drop off line. I know HE got him to school late at least one of those days. However, he did not want to admit that one!

SO, that day I thought I finished cussing him out on the drive to my son's school. But once I got to work, I realized I had to get the rest off of my chest. I checked on my staff to make sure everyone was there and did not need me before I called him back. Then I let him have it again. It was at that point I felt a "heavy cloud" over me. It was at that moment that I realized when I was with him, a heavy cloud/burden was on me. With me not being with him for 6 months, it was removed. But that ONE conversation brought it right back like a hard storm. It was in that moment I could not entertain any more conversations with him.

Day 20 - This Month

The 30th of the month seems like an appropriate time to discuss "This Month". This month has been a roller coaster ride to say the least. The month started out with one of my favorite uncles eventually dying from a car accident. I know kinda a morbid way to start a post. However that is how I started my month. In fact, it was another illustration of a lunch conversation I had just the previous week. So many people were/are dying and nothing should be taken for granted. Naturally, I went home for his funeral. I hate the occasion but I enjoyed spending time with my family. I spent five days home. I am glad I have an understanding boss.

Man-Child/Baby Bandit had a busy month which means I had a busy schedule. He participated in a Nike Combine while I was at home. He started running track but had to settle for just working out with the track team because of his AAU basketball schedule. I have been roped in to minimize some of the foolishness I can see about to happen with the teams. The coaches are good but the management is unorganized. So I am working on the website, sending out emails to parents, and spearheading fundraisers.

I celebrated my friend's 30th birthday. She had a great dinner party with a live band. We shut the place down when her family and friends started singing Happy Birthday. They had 2 different versions and they can SANG.

Towards the end of the month, I was really tired. Several people over a few days said I looked tired. I decided not to go to my son's tourney of the season to stay home and rest. It was hard, but I think it was a wise choice.

30 Day Challenge

I started this 30 day challenge back in December and I still have 12 days left....shameful! I am going to try to finish within the next 3 weeks. I am not foolish enough to think I will do it in 2 weeks....LOL

Keep checking! More posting to come over the next couple of weeks.

Day 19 - Something I Regret

Regrets. We all have them. Some are deep rooted and others are just little things you wished you had done differently. Many people say live with regrets, but we all know you can not get through life without some regrets. People regret something they said, something they did not say, getting into a relationship, getting out of a relationship, taking too long with making a change, not making a change, telling someone their true feelings, buying something impulsively, etc.

Today's topic is "Something I Regret". I can't think of 1 thing that I regret and willing to share here. You never know who may be lurking! LOL

So what's a girl to do. Without going into many details, I will share some things I have regretted over the years.

• Things I have said to my son
• Things I have said to other family members
• Overthinking situations
• Not pursuing desires or pursuing them sooner
• Expressing my feelings
• PROCRASTINATING

Yep, these are some of the things I have regretted over the years. 

Day 18 - My Favorite Birthday

I am not caring for all these "favorite" posts. I few favorites and birthdays are not one of them. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy my birthdays every year. Most years, I am not celebrating on the actual day but I do celebrate it every year some kind of way.

Your birthday is the time to celebrate a new year of life and a reflection on your years on earth. Since my birthday is in June, this is a great time for my midyear calendar review/checkpoint. I use it as a time to assess where I am with my goals and improvements for the year. Then I reset or continue pushing towards those goals.

Since I don't have a favorite birthday, I will share some memorable birthday moments/times:

A few years ago, LadyLee blogged about our friendship for my birthday. It was one of the greatest gifts ever! I like material gifts just like the next girl, but I love gifts which requires thought whether it is material in nature or not. That year, I spent my birthday at a book club meeting followed by about 10 of us from the meeting going out to a early dinner. Lee made me some of her famous chocolate chip cookies. Since Baby Bandit's birthday is 2 days before mine, she sent him his own batch.

The year before, I spent my birthday with another fabulous Gemini. My best male friend Loco's wife and I share the same birthdate. I am literally hours older than her. We both worked that day, but we met up at Taco Mac to start the weekend celebration. Some of her coworkers and friends met us there. We spent a few hours there before moving to the next spot. We finished the night at a Latin club where I attempted to learn how to salsa...LOL

The birthday before last, I had a cookout at the house. No need for me to blog about it. LadyLee took care of it for me. Click this.

Last year, I celebrated for about a week. That was about the time I started this blog. I had a few friends over for a cookout and my mom was in town to pick up 2 of my nephews. I celebrated some more when a couple of my line sisters were in town. Click on the links to read about the weekend celebration. Friday and Saturday

This year I am planning to celebrate 40 years in 40 days. I have started compiling a list of things to do. I am celebrating from June 1st through July 10th. It works great with my school calendar and BB's AAU basketball schedule. I just saw the schedule for the team. There are no games in June and the 1st tourney in July is after my celebrations.

Day 17 - My Favorite Memory

No one memory just pop into my mind. For those who know me, I don't have many favorite anything. I am not an extremist. So it has to be something special to fall into the "favorite" category. I have favorite time periods or close people who gave me great memories, but I don't have just one. OR I have other adjectives for it other than favorite. For example, proud moment, excited moment, pleasantly surprised moment.

So I am stuck on what to use. Therefore I am going to just skip this one!

Day 16 - My First Kiss

By now, you know I like to take the topic and put a twist to it. When I read first kiss, I immediately thought about my first kiss ever with a boy. Then I thought about what twist could I use. It came to me. The first kiss with any guy. What is more memorable or what blog worthy. If I was ever married, I would definitely blog about my first kiss as a wife. Since I am not, I definitely will not blog about it.

Types of first kiss

• romantic kiss ever
• with a new boo
• first kiss as a couple
• first kiss as a married kiss

First kisses are definitely awkward. I wish I was a good story teller and could create this elaborate story. But I am not....so I won't.

I had my first kiss in middle school. THE END

LOL

I believe I was in the 7th grade when I had my first kiss. I was "dating" a twin boy a year older. Both of us went to the movies with our friends. It was about 8 to 10 of us. I could not tell you the name of the movie. I need to call my twin to remember who was all there. So I guess all in all my first kiss was not memorable!